Girlfriend Ki Shadi Ho Rahi Hai, Main Kya Karu ?

Hello Doston, Delhi ke humare ek friend Mohit ji is waqt bahut tension me hai. Jis ladki se vo bachpan se pyar karte hai uski kuch dino me shaadi hone waali hai, lekin kisi aur ke saath. Ladki ne unse hamesha waada kiya ki, vo kisi aur se shaadi nhi karegi aur unhi ki sajni banegi par ab usne kisi aur ko apna Sajan banane ke liye haan kar di hai. Ab vo khushi khushi apna ghar basane ki taiyari kar rhi hai aur idhar humare dost behad dukhi hai aur ye decide nhi kar paa rhe hai ki unhe kya karna chahiye. Vo humse help chahte hai. To chaliye Sumit ki problem ko detail me samajhte hai aur unki help karne ki kosish karte hai..

Sumit ka Sawal..


Hi…dear…

Mera nam Mohit hai…or meri bhi ek problem hai or mai us problem se bahar nhi nikal pa rha hu..or us prblm ki vajah se main tension me hu or chup chap rehne lga hu…. kyuki mujhse ye sab dekha nhi ja rha hai, or jisse bar bar mera man karta hai ki main apne aap ko hi khataM kar lu…..

Ab main jo btane ja rha hu usko pls dhyaan se padhna or fir mujhe btana ki mujhe kya krna chahiye is prblm me….

Meri college life me bhut ladkiyo kiesath frdship thi.. par clg life khatam huyi or jab main sabse dur hua to mujhe itna fark nhi pada or main dhree dhree sab bhul gya.. lekin ab mujhe jisse pyar hua usko sayad mai jab 10 saal ka tha tab se pyar karta hu. Lekin kabhi bol nhi paya kyuki.. wo humare village me rehti thi. Lekin fir wo delhi aa gyi apni study puri karne ke liye or mere mammi papa or uske mammi papa ek dusre ko jante the kyuki hum log gaon me ek dusre ke podshi hi the… isliye sayad main usko apne dil ki baat nhi bol paya. Lekin jaise jaise main bada hua fir hum dono me bonding kafi achhi ho gyi or fir hum dono ko ehsas hua ki hum ek dusre ke bina nhi reh sakte… lekin hum ye baat bhi jante hai ki humare mammi papa hum dono ki shaadi ke liye nhi manenge, isliye hum dono ne faisla kiya tha ki jab tak shaadi nhi ho jaati tab tak hum saath rahenge.

Aur ab uski saadi ki baat chal rahi hai, jisse mujhe uski saadi ki baat sun kar bahut gussa aata hai…or mujhe achha nhi lagta hai, kyuki shaadi se ralted uske ghar par kuch bhi baat hoti hai to uski mammi aake meri mammi se share jarur karti hai, jisse mujhe gussa aata hai.. or main ye sab baate sun kar bahut preshan ho jata hu or samajh nhi aata hai ki kya kru

Ek bar sochta hu ki ye to hona hi hai… fir sochta hu ki agar ye ho gya to main zinda kaise rahunga….? Aur jab se ye shaadi ki baat chal rhi hai… tab maine us ladki se baat kari to usne mujhe hamesa yhi kha ki – “Ye saadi nhi hogi..” kyuki main kuch aisa kar dungi jisse ye shaadi na ho or ladke waale khud mana kar de… Aur main uski baat par viswas kar ke chup ho jata or apna gussa bhul jata… lekin maine ye dekha ki wo kuch karti hi nhi hai…or shaadi ke liye haan bhi bol diya usne… or jab se shadi ki liye haan boli to ab ladke waale ke phone bhi aate hai uske paas, or wo baat bhi karti hai kyuki uski mammi bahut force karti hai.

Aur main usse puchta hu ki tune haan kyo kri saadi ke liye? to wo bolti hai mammi ne kasam di hai… or ye baat Main bhi janta hu. Wo to saadi kar rhi hai par mujhe samajh nhi aa rha hai, main kya kru. Kyuki main uske bina nhi reh sakta.

Aur ek cheej maine note kari, usse maine bas ek baat boli thi ki wo shadi se pahle us ladke se baat na kare or unko bol de ki main shadi ke baad baat krugi, usse pahle nhi. Aur usne mujhse kha bhi ki vo aisa karegi, lekin maine 2 din pahle dekha ki wo us ladke se baat kar rhi thi or jab maine pucha ki, kisse baat kar rhi hai to usne bola apni friend se kar rhi hu… or jab maine phone me chupke se dekha to wo us ladke se baat kar rhi thi.

Tab se mujhe bahut gussa aa rha hai ki, shayad wo mujhse pyar karti hi nhi hai. Tabhi to usne meri baat nhi mani…kyuki aisa bahut baar hua, means unse mujhse kyi baar jhuth bola hai… kyuki bahut baar maine uska phone check kiya tha to kyi baar hnre realtionship me inhi baaton se prblm hoti thi, kyki wo mere alawa or ladko se bhi baat krti thi, or unke sath realtion me bhi thi.. Lekin jab maine usse breakup karne ke liye bola to usne mere liye sabko chor diya. Ye baat mujhe uski aachi lagi or tabhi humara realitonship itna long time chala.

Lekin ab shaadi ka issue aa gya hai, humare beech me… Pls mujhe btao ab Main kya kru… Wo ladki to shaadi kar legi, lekin shayad uski shaadi hone ke baad main zinda na reh paau… Please tell me ki, main kya kru.

Shivshi Ka Jawab…

Hello Sumit,

Main ye baat manti hu ki us ladki ke liye aapka pyar bahut sacha hai aur aapka rishta bhi bahut lamba chala isliye dukh pahuchna lajimi hai. Par, aapki kuch baate mujhe bilkul bhi pasand nhi aayi.

Dekho, sabse pahle to ye baat samjho ki is duniya me koi kisi ke saath na aata hai na jaata hai, isliye ye kehna ki agar uski shaadi ho gayi to shayad main Zinda na reh paau bilkul galat hai. Kya aapko malum hai, aapke saath jo abhi beet rha hai uske khi jyada bura logon ke saath har din, har ghante, har pal hota hai aur fir bhi vo haar nhi mante aur Zindgi ke safar par aage chalte jaate hai. Isliye sabse pahle khud ko khatam kar lene waali baat ko apne dil aur dimag se nikal do, ye baat sochna bhi aapki maa ko kokh ko gaali dena hai.

Mujhe ye btao aap us ladki se pyar karte ho vo theek hai par, kya aap apni mammi ko pyar nhi karte? Apne papa ki ijjat karte? Apni family ko pyar nhi karte? Jin Maa-Baap ne apni zindgi ke sab sukh aap par luta diye, apni khusiyan kurban karke aapko sab khushi dene ki kosish ki, kya unke liye aapke dil me koi kadar nhi hai? Kya ek ladki ka pyar in sab cheezo se upar ho gaya?

Dekho Sumit, Zindgi har kisi ko muskil waqt deti hai, lekin iska matlab ye nhi ki ek muskil ya takleef ke karan aap apni zindgi se judi baaki sabhi cheezon ko bhula do. Mere khyaal me duniya me hum sab ke liye sabse upar humare Maa Baap aate hai aur fir hum khud aur fir koi pyar, mohabbat ya aisa kuch. Aapki zindgi aapse pahle aapke mata pita ki hai, ise aap ek ladki ke liye unse cheenne ki soch rahe ho ye bahut badi galti hai, aisa fir kabhi mat sochna. Are pyar unse karo jo aapko pyar karte hai aur aapki khushi ke liye duniya me koi bhi dukh sahne ke liye taiyar hai, aur vo hai aapki Mammi ji, aapke Papa, aapka parivar. Apna koi bhi sukh ya dukh dekhne se pahle unke baare me socho, jab vo khush honge to aap khush hoge, aapki aatma khush hogi, aapka bhagwan khush hoga. So don’t ever think this nonsense thing again. 🙂

Main Bahut Dukhi hu samajh nhi aa rha hai Main kya karu - Positive Attitude hi sab kuch hai

Ab baat karte hai us ladki ki shaadi ki..

Sumit aap ab ek baat achi tarah se jante ho ki, vo ladki aapse jhuth bol kar dusre ladke se baat kar rhi hai. Iska simple sa matlab ye hai ki vo khud bhi khi na khi, jo ho raha hai usse khush hai, aur vo janti hai jo ho rha hai shi hai. Aapne hi kaha ki aap dono ki shaadi nhi ho sakti. To aap hi batao aise me vo ladki kya kare, aap ladke ho…. aap kahi bhi jaa sakte ho, khi bhi reh sakte ho, apni life enjoy kar sakte ho, doston ke saath masti kar sakte ho aur kisi bhi age me shaadi kar sakte ho. Par ye mat bhulo ki, Vo ek ladki hai mere dost. Use apne ghar waalon ki ijjat ki bhi fikar hai aur apne future ki bhi, agar vo shaadi nhi karegi to uska kal bahut bura hoga, isliye vo shaadi kar rhi hai. And She is doing absolutely right.

Ab ek baat reh gyi ki, aapne use kha abhi us ladke se baat na kare par usne kiya. Dekho friend, jab koi rishta packa ho jaata hai aur ladka baat karna chahe to ladki ko baat karni padti hai. Aap khud socho… kal jab hum aapki shaadi ke liye ladki dekh ke aayenge 😉 aur vo aapko pasand bhi aa jayegi, uske aap usse baat karne ki kosish karoge aur vo ladki aapse baat na kare to aapko kaisa lagega. Ho sakta hai aapke dimag me alag aag tarah ke khyaal aaye ki, yaar vo baat nhi kar rhi khi aisa to nhi ki vo khush nhi hai, ya vo ye shaadi hi nhi karna chahti etc etc. Lekin agar vhi aapse kuch der baat kar legi to aapko acha lagega aur aapke dimag me koi tension nhi rahegi. So ab aap samajh gaye na ki, vo bechari bhi to yhi kaam kar rhi hai.

In the end, overall ye kah sakte hai ki, jo ho raha hai, theek ho rha hai. Aap kisi cheez ki tension na lo aur humse baat karte rho. Uski shaadi ki baat sun kar tension na lo balki jab bhi aisi koi baat sunne ko mile to smile ke saath socho, ye to hona hi tha aur jo ho rha hai shi ho rha hai. Kuch dino ke liye doston ke saath bahar ghumne ke liye jaao, aur apna attitude positive banao. ye mat dekho kya bura ho rha hai, ye socho aap duniya me kitne logon se achi life jee rhe ho. Khush raho, masti karo. Attitude is everything my friend.

Aap apne parents ko khush karne ke liye har mumkin mehnat karo, kuch aisa karo, aisa ban ke dikhao ki Uncle Aunty ke saath saath hume bhi proud ho ki Sumit humara friend hai. Make us feel proud my friend.. 🙂

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