Agar Koi Humse Pyar Karta Hai, Par Hum Nahi Karte Ho To Kya Kare

Aisa aksar hota hai ki koi hume pyar karne lagta hai, par hum nahi karte. Ye behad serious baat hai aur ab baat ye aati hai ki, aise me kare kya? Hum kisi usse pyar nahi karte par hum usko hurt bhi nahi karna chahte to aisa kya kare jisse ye complicated problem easily solve ho jaaye. Aksar dekha jata hai ki kisi ko hum bahut pasand hote hai aur vo hume pyar karne lagta hai par humare dil me uske liye aisi koi feeling nahi hoti, ya hum us person ko us way me nahi dekhte. Mostly ye ladkiyon ke saath jyada hota hai, aur kyi baar vo is baat se bhut preshan hoti hai. To aaj Main isi complicated Love situation ko handle karne ke kuch baate share karne waali hu apne pyare doston ke saath aur mujhe umeed hai isse aapko apni problem solve karne me help milegi. 🙂

Jo Humse Pyar Karta Ho Usse Kaise Deal Kare

To chaliye ab baat karte hai ki aisa kya kare jisse hume chahne waale ko bura bhi na lage aur ye problem bhi smoothly solve ho jaye.

Agar Koi Humse Pyar Karta Hai, Par Hum Nahi Karte Ho To Kya Kare tips in hindi me 1

Actually aisa normally tab hota hai jab koi friend kisi friend ko pyar karne lag jata hai par wo nahi karta ya karti, usko friends se jyada samajhne lag jata hai. Lekin isse problem dono ko hi hoti hai, yaha tak ki jo friendship ka relation hota hai wo bhi tut jata hai ya pahle jaisa normal nhi reh paata. Jo aapko pyar krta hai aap usko btana chahte ho ki aap use pyar nahi karte to conversation (baat) hi sabse acha tarika hai. Isliye tensed hone ki bajaye aap baat karo aur problem ko solve karo.

Anjaan Bane Raho

Agar aapko aisa feel hone lagta hai ki wo aapko pyaar karne lga hai to aisa show hone mat do ki aapko pta is baat ka chal gya hai. Kyuki agar koi aapko pyaar Karne lag gya hai to wo show karega ya alag behave karega, wo aisi koi baat karega jisse aapko pata chal jaye ki wo aapko like karta hai, uski us baat ko ignore kar do. For example, wo aapko love messages send karega to aap usko ignore karo bajaye iski ki aap usse is baare me koi baat karne lago. Baat karte time agar wo alag tarah se (girlfriend waale way me) baat karta hai ya karti hai to aap use show karo ki aapko is baare me kuch pata nhi aur aap baat ko dusri kisi baat se khatam kar do aur aage baat karne ki bajaye uth kar chale jaao ya kuch aur karne lago.

Kab Aur Kaise Baat Kare

Agar baat tab bhi nahi banti hai to ab aapko tarika badal kar uske saath is bare me baat karni chahiye, jitna aap wait karoge utna hi uski feelings aapke liye badhati jayegi. Isse acha hoga ki aap jaldi se jaldi is matter par baat karo aur sab kuch clear kar do. Aap is par baat karne ke liye koi acha time aur shant mahol dekho, is baat ka khyal rahe ki jab aap usse is bare me baat kar rhe ho to us waqt aap dono ke saath aur koi teesra insan na ho, taki usko bura ya embarrassment feel na ho aur vo apni baat comfortably kah sake. Usko pehale btao ki aap usse ek seriously koi baat krna chahti /chahta hai, aur seriously hi baat karo nahi to wo is baat ko seriously understand nahi kar payega.

Kya Bole

Usse pyar se smile ke saath politely baat karo jaise “Tum mere bahut ache friend ho but kuch dino se tumhare behaviour aur tumhari baaton me bhut changes aa gya hai, maine pahle ignore karne ki kosish ki par mujhe ab lagta hai ki hume is baare me abhi baat kar leni chahiye. Mujhe aisa lagta hai tumhare mann me mere baare me kuch feelings hai, kya aisa hai?”

Agar samne se vo bolte hai, `Nhi aisi koi baat nhi hai` to smile ke saath bolo “Fir theek hai, main nhi chahti ki main kisi ko hurt karu isliye maine socha agar aisi koi baat ho to clear kar deni chahiye. Log man hi man pta nhi kya kya soch lete hai aur fir baad me uske karan problems hone lagti hai.”

Aur agar vo kuch bhi aisa kehta hai jiska matlab `Haan` hota hai to use bolo.. “Dekho dear, Main aapko kisi bhi tarah hurt nhi karna chahti. Mere dil me aapke liye is tarah ki koi feeling nhi hai aur Main jabardasti kisi ke liye bhi apne Dil me koi feelings lana nhi chahti, isliye meri baat maano aur mere baare me is tarah sochna band kar do.

Isse usko bura bhi lag skta hai par aap usko ye bol sakte ho ki, Please meri baat ka bura mat manna, Hum jaise friends hai vaise hi friends rahenge. Usko ye btao ki iske baad bhi uski feelings aur reputation kam nahi hogi, jaise pahle thi vaise hi rahegi. Uski har baat ko pahle ache se suno, fir usko ache se samjhao isse aapko bhi help milegi ki uske mann me konsi baat hai aur usko kaise samjhana hai. Jab tak wo samajh nahi jata is baat ko khatam mat karo. Baat karte rho. Use datne ya us par gussa hone ki bajaye shanti se baat karke matter ho solve karna hi samajhdari hai.

Samjhane Ke Baad Kya Kare

Agar aapne usko bta diya hai ki aap usko like nahi karte hai to uske baad usse rude behave mat karo. Kyi logon ko rejection bahut hurt karta hai, log kabhi kabhi is baat ko galat tarah se le lete hai aur ise apni bejjati ya is tarah ki koi cheez samajhne lagte hai. Aap us rejection ke bare me baat na kare, is topic par kbhi bhi future me baat na kare. Uske sath friends ki tarah hi behave kare. Aur agar wo aapse is baat ke baad bhi friend banne ko ready hota hai to sure karo ki wo ab seriously samajh chukka hai aur aage se aisa kuch nahi karega. Otherwise aapko fir se aisi problem face karni padegi, aur kya pta ki aage situation aur bigad jaye.

Usse dheere dheere duri banao, jab vo mile to normally behave karo jaise pahle karti thi par aap usse gap banao, usse jitna duri bane utna acha hoga. Kyunki besak insaan baat samajh jaaye, kyi baar dil apne pyar ko dekhte hi control se bahar chala jaata hai aur iska best prevention yhi hai ki usse kam se kam mila jaaye ya uske samne kam aaya jaaye. Lekin is process me thoda time dena jruri hai, aisa na kare ki ek dum se usse baat karni band kar di aur use ignore karna shuru kar diya.

Friends ye tips the Agar koi aapko pyar karta hai aur aap nhi karte to kya kare ke baare me. Umeed hai aapko is critical situation ko handle karne me humare is Love & Relationship Tips se thodi help to jarur milegi, Agar aapko koi isse related koi doubt ya problem aati hai to humse share kare. Main promise karti hu ki aapki help karne ki puri koshish karungi.

Aapki apni.
Shivshi ♥

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